“Did you talk to your mom about the holidays?” “I did, she said John wants to have dinner at his house, and I think we should just go, I don’t want to have to deal with him.” “Seriously? I wanted to do dinner here. I’ve been talking about it for months” “once again we have to spend the holidays the way your brother wants…” If ever there was a test designed to measure personal growth and the efficacy of therapy it would come with turkey, gravy, and a side of holiday shopping.